Things I Want My Daughter to Know About Friendship 

Amy Weatherly and Jess Johnston 


  1. Not everyone is going to like you. It’s OK. (I know it won’t always feel like it’s OK, but I promise it is.)
  2. Not everyone is going to invite you. That’s OK too.
  3. You’ll never regret kindness. (Never ever.)
  4. If you constantly have to tiptoe around them, they’re not your people.
  5. You get to choose them, so choose the ones who are choosing you back.
  6. Have high standards when it comes to friends, but don’t be unrealistic. They’re going to mess up, and so are you. Grace is essential.
  7. Be yourself. Let other people be themselves right back.
  8. You can’t have friends if you don’t know how to be a friend. Focus on being the best friend you possibly can.
  9. Don’t wait. You’re allowed to do the inviting and the reaching out too.
  10. Listen.
  11. If you want them to be there for the big stuff, you’re gonna have to be there for each other in the small stuff too.
  12. Don’t knowingly leave people out. It doesn’t feel good.
  13. Gossip is garbage.
  14. Drama is too. Stay above the fray, and feel free to walk away.
  15. You can’t be best friends with everyone. But you can notice everyone. You can smile at everyone. You can say hello to everyone. You can be good to everyone and make sure people feel seen.
  16. It’s better to be genuinely loved by a few than fake loved by a few thousand.
  17. Popularity for the sake of popularity is pointless.
  18. Your worth will never come from others. You have to learn to accept yourself if you want others to accept you.
  19. Give more than you take, but don’t be anyone’s doormat. Your mama didn’t raise you right so you could be walked all over.
  20. Your friends should be good to you, but they should also be good to other people. If they’re nice to you and then turn around and talk smack about others, they’re not nice.
  21. Be loyal. Stick up for your friends whether they’re around or not.
  22. Friends aren’t toys to be discarded when you get bored. Deep friendships take time and commitment.
  23. Show up for your friends even if they didn’t ask you to. If they’re going through something hard, check on them, sit with them and bring them flowers. Be present, even if it feels awkward.
  24. If mama don’t like them, there’s probably a good reason.
  25. Friendship is one of the most important things you can invest in. Make the time.
  26. If you get hurt, I’m always here for a hug and to talk. I’ve been there. Give yourself time and grace to heal, but listen, my love, don’t close yourself up, and don’t shut yourself away. Opening up your heart again is worth the risk. 

I love you to the moon and back, 

Love, Mama

Amy Weatherly is a Texas girl through and through, which is where she lives with her husband, three kids, and two rescue dogs, Lou and Brewster. She is passionate about helping women embrace courage, confidence and purpose for their life, and she does it with a quick wit and down-to-earth sense of humor. She is the coauthor ofI’ll Be There, (But I’ll Be Wearing Sweatpants)” and “I’ll Be There, (And Let’s Make Friendship Bracelets)” for girls 8-12 years old.  Connect with Amy on Instagram and Facebook

Jess Johnston lives in Southern California with her husband and four kids who are the loves of her life. Her favorite thing to do is to sit around a table with her best friends, eating nachos and laughing until her stomach hurts. She is the coauthor of “I’ll Be There, (But I’ll Be Wearing Sweatpants)” and “I’ll Be There, (And Let’s Make Friendship Bracelets)” for girls 8-12 years old.  She has been a top contributor to publications such as HuffPo, Scary Mommy, and Motherly, and has been honored with Motherly‘s Writer of the Year Award. Connect with Jess on Instagram and Facebook.

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